The Holiday season can be rife with conflicting emotions for all. For people in recovery, this season can be particularly poignant and challenging in many respects. Those of us who strive to live in accord with the twelve steps of recovery have an abundant set of tools with which to cope in this “jolly” season.

I can recall clearly the challenges of the holiday season while in my addiction. The most important thing to an active addict is having enough of their drug of choice to get through a family gathering before the supply is exhausted. If such occurred one would have to endure questions from family members, who probably already knew the answer, about the “emergency” we must attend to at any hour of the day or night. Drugs and alcohol were our solution to any and all our problems. Ironically, drugs and alcohol were also the cause of many of our problems.

People in recovery have different challenges during the holidays. Parties are abundant this time of year. We may be involved in a myriad of fellowships: work, church, sports etc. Many of these fellowships will most certainly have alcohol and possibly drugs available. Another challenge could be resentment to those who can drink with impunity. So how do we handle all these potential problems this time of year? The same exact way we would at any other time: With Love, Tolerance and a Working Grasp of the Principals of this simple program.

For many of us, our family members seem to regard us with distrust, and rightfully so. If we are so blessed as to be allowed to participate in the family festivities, then we should do so and not be easily offended if a loved one voices an opinion regarding our past. “Resentment is the number one offender.” A.A., pg. 64 Those of us in recovery cannot afford to be angered by a perceived slight or snide comment. What then is our recourse?

This is the time to redouble our efforts. Speaking with our sponsor and attendance at solution-based meetings is necessary more than ever this time of year. Probably the most important solution of all is staying close with your higher power. After all, the holiday season is a celebration of God. The Big Book of A.A. effectively says that an alcoholic has no defense against the first drink. “His defense must come from a higher power.”A.A., pg. 43

In dealing with our close family and friends we must be aware of three things in particular:

1 ) Resentment

2 ) Indignation

3 ) Self-pity

RESENTMENT: We are angered by our perceived mistreatment.

INDIGNATION: We are indignant that they don’t realize how much we have progressed.

SELF-PITY: We fall into self-pity wondering why our own family could be so mistrustful of us.

This is the recipe for relapse. It is best under these conditions that we turn in earnest to our higher power and consult the Big Book as well.

So, this Christmas season, strive to be a good example of recovery. Take the high road and use the tool box that was so freely given to us. Believe me, others will see the change in you before you do.

And remember, “Love and tolerance is our code.” A.A., pg. 84

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